Desiree Hartsock Revisits Brooks’ ‘Bachelorette’ Breakup In New Book
The most dramatic Single break in history? Eight years after finding love with her husband Chris Siegfried in season 9 of The bachelorette, Desiree Hartsock reflects on her journey – including her split from the fan favorite Brooks Forester – in his new book, The rose route.
Bachelor Nation will recall that the bridal designer, now 35, was devastated when Forester, now 37, withdrew from the race after reaching the final three of his 2013 season. In her memoir, available Tuesday, June 22, Hartsock noted that she confused Forester’s “compliments” with “communication.”
“I think it’s just because I didn’t grow up with a communicative family and, like, if someone said something nice, I was like, ‘Oh, they really love me’”, a declared Hartsock exclusively. Us weekly while promoting his new book. “I think it’s important to know if it’s just them talking and being charming or if it’s really, like, they like you. Because I think that as women – and men – we tend to think too much about things [and] also do things [into] which they are not when you love someone.
While Hartsock was able to get past Forester’s separation and get engaged to Siegfried, now 35, in the final, she was bombarded with viewers accusing her of settling for the former baseball player. after the broadcast of their proposal.
“He follows me forever,” said Hartsock We of the story she “settled” for Siegfried. “I think now more than ever I’m so comfortable with it because I can look back and give myself so much more grace and I can look back and be, like, in these bits of my confusion, there was a purpose. And so now more than ever I can sit here and just be, like, that’s what happened and it’s OK that it happened because now I’m here, where I am, grown up from that point. And I hope it can help other people get through the grief and rejection. “
the Single The Season 17 alum added that “it feels good to open it up again” and write about her experience from “a place of healing and a place of trust.”
Hartsock and Siegfried, who married in 2015, share two sons: Asher, 4, and Zander, 2.
“Chris got a little shoved under the rug, so people couldn’t really see how strong our connection really was. I know there were people who did, but, you know , the Brooks stuff overshadowed it all, ”Hartsock said. We, noting that she wants viewers to see more of her relationship with her husband on the show. “Chris felt like he was super romantic with his poems, but he’s also super funny and original. I’d kinda like a part of that to be shown, like, you know, I didn’t just fall in love because of the poems. He’s a really funny and cool guy.
Although some viewers doubted their romance at the time, the author said We that Siegfried never bothered to make it work after the show.
“He’s so amazing. And I think that also speaks to why we were able to keep going – and what might be good for other couples – is that he was so able to compartmentalize, ”Hartsock explained. “So even throughout the show, he might say, ‘This is my relationship with Des, this is my relationship with the guys, and this is his relationship with the other guys.’ He never mixed it up. I don’t know how; It’s impossible for me. I’m like an emotional wreck. So even after the show, he didn’t care to be honest, which was very helpful.